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Stop Pointing Fingers and Accept Responsibility

I recently watched “The Facebook Obsession” on CNBC.  In it they tried to cover the good, bad and ugly of Facebook.  Facebook is used to connect friends, family, co-workers, everyone.  I do not want to talk about all the technical and privacy issues with Facebook.  My beef is with the people who want to blame Facebook for ruining their lives.  On “The Facebook Obsession” they interviewed a woman who was fired from a high school she was employed at because of a post she put on her page.  This woman got on her Facebook page to complain about work and even went so far as to call the students and parents names and how glad she would be to move on.  She thought that her status update was only going to be seen by her friends and family.  She claims she had no idea that Facebook had changed the privacy settings and that now everyone could see what she posted.  REALLY LADY!  It is not Facebook’s fault that you ignorantly decided to rant about your job on an internet site!  You don’t know how to pick up a phone to discuss private matters like that.  You have a Doctorate, you are smart enough to know that regardless of what you “think” your settings are, when you conduct business on the internet “assume” everyone can see it.  Stop blaming Facebook and accept responsibility for your own actions.  I don’t know how you didn’t know the settings changed because I had a banner at the top of my screen when they changed and I changed mine.

I have seen news reports of couples talking about Facebook ruined my marriage or is the reason I got divorced.  NO, you are the reason your marriage was almost ruined or ended.  No one told you to get on Facebook and look up old flings or behave inappropriately.  YOU did that.  No one told you to click the “add friend” button on that guy or gal you had a crush on, YOU DID THAT.  What you not gonna do is sit there and act like you took no part in it and like Facebook “tempted” you.  You went looking for trouble and it found your behind.  Period point-blank.  You didn’t think you were gonna get caught.

Facebook is a tool.  Just like any tool it depends on whose hands it’s in.  You decide what you are going to do with it.  It has no ability to control how you interact with other people.  I am so sick of adults refusing to take responsibility for their actions.  I am SICK AND TIRED of people looking for everything else to blame except themselves.  While I’m talking about people wanting to blame outside forces for their stupidity, the same goes for these knuckleheads that want to blame Four Loko for them acting irrationally and doing stupid stuff under the influence.  It is not Four Loko’s fault that you want to consume an alcoholic beverage and think that you’re not going to do anything stupid.  PLEASE!  No one forced you to drink it.  You drink at your own risk.  Anytime you use any substance it is at your own risk.  You can’t come back later and blame the alcohol company cause you went streaking, felt sick, or blacked out.  COME ON PEOPLE! Get with the program.  Know your limits or better yet stop drinking.  It is time to start looking at yourselves and your own actions and just admit that you messed up, learn from it and move on.  I guess it takes stupid people to lead by example! (Now we know) lol<–stole that from my sister-in-law.  I’M JUST SAYING, DANG!!!


Types of People That Should Be Deleted According to Their Facebook Status Updates

On November 2009 my sister and I sat down and decided to put together the Top 10 Facebook Status offenders.  It was a light-hearted attempt to make Facebook a better place for friends…while poking fun at them  lol  🙂  So here it is, enjoy:

This is all out of fun, I’ve called out myself too. We’ve all been guilty of at least a couple of these infractions. But seriously #1 and #2 gotta go 😀

1. The depressing people; this has got to stop!
Resolution: Focus on what you DO have and what IS happening and not what you don’t have or what’s not happening. Facebook is a happy place 🙂

2. People who use their status to call specific people out, but play it off as a general statement.
Resolution: Either tag the person you’re talking about or better yet, tell them to their face. The subliminal messages gotta go. Tackle your problema head on and move on..NEXT!

3. People who write novels. They should have NEVER extended that box!

Resolution: Keep it short and sweet people! This is not a bio.That’s what your profile “info” tab is for 😉 Or better yet, write a note.

4. People who use their status as a popularity contest. We’re already your friend no need to rally up support.
Resolution: Besides you’re probably depressing #1 even more.

5. People whose statuses look like this –>….
Resolution: Why say anything?

6. People who repost their status AT LEAST seven times due to a grammatical error.
Resolution: Proofread your status before you click submit. And if you don’t know how to spell something just ask Jeeves.

7. The Hopeless Romantic. This is a two parter.
For those in a relationship: Your partner is not that great (I’m not bitter :P)
For the single ones; this aint Myspace or E-Harmony!

8. People who ALWAYS attach a video to their status like it’s a trademark. You cannot standout or be special on Facebook!
Resolution: If people don’t’s not important. lol

9. People who use their status to have personal conversations.
Resolution: Take that mess to the wall!

10. People who use their status to take a poll… i.e. “Hey, facebook what do you think of this?”

I hope you all were able to laugh at yourself.
This was a collaboration by Natasha Evans and Whitney Ellis=SISTERS!