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Gays in the Military


Allowing homosexuals to serve openly has been a hot topic of debate for a long time.  I really want to get a better understanding of why people are so against it.  I know what the “religious” folks say that homosexuality is an “abomination” and a sin.  It is not a preference that I choose to have but these same nay sayers commit other sins daily, and sin is sin.  No one sin is greater than the other, other than blasphemy.  With that being said.  These are human beings we are talking about.  They have the right to be treated as such no matter their sexual preference.   I have read that some officials reasoning for opposing homosexuals from serving openly is because of the increase in non deployability due to HIV infections.  Come on really.  Now homosexuals are the only ones that contract HIV/AIDS.  If we really want to get technical there are heterosexuals that engage in risky sexual activities but hey no one is knocking that cause their “straight”.  Take the airman who was recently sentenced to 8 years for exposing sex partners to HIV.  I really feel like if they want to serve allow them to serve their country.  They serve now anyway.  They are not attacking people, they are not offending others, they are not coming on to people in the showers(at least not if you did not invite them to anyway. )  In my opinion it is just another form of discrimination and people acting out of fear.  Trust me homosexuality is not contagious.  It’s not the cooties.  I really want to know what the big deal is on this matter.  There would be no public displays of affection while in uniform because it is against regulation for all service members.  I am really trying to see both sides.  I consider it an honor for any man or woman to lay down their life in service for their country and what they believe in no matter what their sexual preference is.  I’m just saying.

It’s Official…I’m Addicted to Cityville!


I started playing Cityville via Facebook in early December.  I was instantly hooked.  It reminded me of a game called Sim City that I used to play with my brother when we were little.  I tried to recruit my friends and family to the game because I needed more neighbors for the missions and to open new venues and what-not.  Some were takers and a few who act like they’re too serious to play games on Facebook denied me. I didn’t let that stop me.  I continued to expand and grow.  I reached level 60 before I knew it.  I completed all the tasks and it was just free play for me…or so I thought.  They have recently added new missions, buildings, houses and sites and today I have been moved up to level 63.  What, new levels too!!!  That’s all I needed to become hooked on this game.  I have I don’t know how many friends now as I have joined a private group of Cityville members where we discuss the game and get whatever we need to complete our missions.  I know you may be thinking, “but Natasha you don’t know these people”.  Now now no worries,  I have created a “list” just for Cityville friends that I do not know and they do not have access to my personal and private information as you can set that up in your privacy settings.  If you need further details on that let me know and I’ll walk you through it.  Well I have to go now my City awaits.  I need to help the doctor go on a date and need 6 roses.  😀  Ta ta for now.  Oh and if you need a neighbor add me.  It’s that serious.  lol

UPDATE: Before you start adding friends follow these steps. From the Home screen click Friends on the left hand side of the screen. Then click “Edit Friends” on the next screen. At the top you’ll see the option to “Create a List”. Enter the desired name for the Cityville “stranger friends” that you will add. After you have created the “list” click Account-Privacy in the upper right hand side of the page. At the bottom you will see “customize settings” now go down the list and click the drop down choose “custom” add the name you chose for the cityville “stranger friends” to the “hide this from” portion. Do this for all the settings you do not wish to share. Even your photo albums.

Also, I have gotten questions regarding the Roses mission for the doctor.  It took me two weeks to get four roses.  You obtain the roses from the flower shop.  So after that long I thought there was a glitch.  What I did was clicked on the Help tab and did a live chat with Zynga.  I asked if there was a glitch and the rep gave me the rest of the roses I needed.  So apparently there is a glitch.  If ever you run into an issue I suggest going to Zynga’s help page and do a live chat.  They respond quickly and are very helpful.

Army Colonel’s Wife Kills 2 Children


I just read this on yahoo news that Julie Powers Schenecker, wife of an Army Colonel, killed her 2 children for being “mouthy”.  I was in complete disbelief upon reading this.  Apparently she shot her son, 13, in the head twice in her SUV taking him to soccer practice because he was talking back.  She then went home and parked the SUV in the garage, with the boy still in it, and shot her daughter,16, in the back of head and in the face.  The police found Schenecker in her backyard.  She admitted to killing her children because she was tired of them disrespecting her and being mouthy

TALK ABOUT SNAPPED! Her mother was concerned and called the police from Texas because Mrs Schenecker was complaining about the kids and was depressed.  This is sad.  I know that my children often get on my nerves but not to the point of killing them.  If ever I’m too angry I separate myself from the situation and go to my room and lock myself in until I calm down. Even when my husband deployed it never got that bad.  When they got on my nerves I would send them outside to play.  My boys still talk back but a quick pop to the lips remedies that.  (yes I said a pop to the lips.)  She could have dropped the son off at practice which I presume would have lasted at least an hour and went to Starbucks or walked around Wal-Mart to find her Zen.  The teenage years are troublesome but they pass as with all phases our children go through.  I believe that this was a totally premeditated act and selfish I might add.  This woman purchased the gun 5 days before the act.  She separated them, giving her a greater advantage, by taking her son to “soccer practice”.  The act of shooting her daughter in the face shows resentment and disgust.  I recently found out that the daughter had called the police on her mother for slapping her several times in the face.  She planned to shoot herself but didn’t go through with it.  I wonder what stopped her.  I reiterate that as military spouses we are afforded so many resources in dealing with deployments, money management, family issues and the like.  If she felt overwhelmed with these children she could have asked for help.  This was just flat-out selfish.  This is just tragic.  These children died at the hands of someone who was supposed to have loved them unconditionally.

I am in no way a reporter I just wanted to express my feelings about such a vile act against these children. 

SAY What You Mean


Far too often I hear women say, “he just doesn’t get a hint”.  My response is, “did you tell him”? Ladies just as we are not mind readers our men aren’t either.  You have to tell them what it is that you want from them.  These games that are played far too often will just leave you feeling unfulfilled.  If I hear, “well we’ve been together long enough he should know me”, again I’m going to SCREAM.  That is not true.

As we age we change and so does our taste.  Constant communication is key.  Show and tell him now and then what it is that you would like from him.  If you want him to surprise you more often, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to do the same for him.  I’ve learned from plenty of men, and my sons, that if they try something with you once and you complain, act disappointed, or nit-pick over every detail they are probably not going to try it again.  Realize that you are dealing with a real human being not your fantasy from a movie.  I grew up with only one brother, I had no idea that guys are just as sensitive as we are.  They don’t like to be rejected or feel like they can’t please you.  I’m not into having someone pine over me all the time and my husband knows that.  It would be silly of me to get upset with him for not showing me affection when I did not tell him I wanted it.  Whenever I want affection I tell him or show him, that I want a hug or cuddle.  Be happy that they are making an effort and want to please you.  If they aren’t making any efforts you may want to think back to the last time they did and you rejected them.  Now if you tell them or even show them what it is that you want and they still don’t deliver then you may need to sit and have a pow wow.  Counseling may be in order.  I’m talking about affection not material things. 😀 I’m just saying.

Friends With an Ex


Hello Ms. Tangled,
 
I was just thinking about what a shame it is that some people do not know how to be broken up! and I was wondering what your thoughts were on being friends with ex lovers??
 
anonymous

Dear anonymous,

Break ups are usually nasty to begin with.  There are a lot of hurt emotions that must be dealt with, if they were not resolved prior to the break up.  I believe that when a couple breaks up they should take some time to themselves to “regroup”.  There are those instances where an ex just hangs around and doesn’t quit get the hint that they’re actually not still together.  It screams desperate and a bit stalkerish.  I have heard far too often when people break up they use the classic line, “Let’s just be friends” but really.  If you were sexually involved with one another that may prove to be really difficult to uphold because that soul tie will always be there.  Especially if one should move on you really do not want your ex, now friend, hanging around. Talk about awkward.  I’m not saying that it isn’t possible to be friends with an ex.  I think once you are over those feelings for them it is totally possible.  Although I would advise that you both move on.  You don’t want to cause any further complications.

If you have children with an ex I feel that you definitely should try to be friends if not kosher with one another for the sake of the child.  You DO NOT want to constantly be fighting with one another about everything and every time the other calls.  You don’t have to just deal with this person until your child turns 18 but when they go to college, get married and have children.  The two of you are going to have to be in each others lives for, forever.  Why not make it peaceful for the sake of your child.  I feel that those that purposely create “drama” whether the father or mother still have an emotional attachment to the other that they are not ready to get over.  The drama maker only makes it worse for themselves because as that child gets older you may be the parent that they choose to leave out of their happiness because you always bring the “drama”. 

It’s surely is possible to be friends once you have dealt with those emotions and have moved on and know for certain that you don’t want to go back down that road with them.  I’m just saying. 🙂

Airman Receives 8 Years In HIV Exposure Case-My Rant


I read about this case last week on military.com.  David Gutierrez, a 43-year old Tech Sgt,  was sentenced to 8 years and dishonorably discharged for exposing multiple sex partners to HIV at swinger parties.  In the article they stated that Gutierrez was sobbing and said he was willing to spend more time in jail if he was allowed to keep his medical benefits.  When Gutierrez found out he had HIV he was ordered by his commander to tell partners that he was infected with HIV and to wear condoms.  He continued to deny he was HIV positive and his wife encouraged him to continue to take part in swinger events.

Now, I go on my rant.  What on earth was this fool thinking!  I know that this is not the first time that a this situation has occurred. I also know that there are people who engage in “swinging” and or “partner swapping“.  My personal thoughts on this are neither here nor there.  If you are going to take part in activities that are risky you have to take the proper precautions.  Who are these swingers or whatever, having sex with multiple people in a given time without protection.  That’s just stupid.  You have to assume that everyone has HIV in that type of setting.  HIV is not the only thing you would be exposing yourself to either.  Now-a-days you must have that mentality anyway with the undercover brothers and people having sex with anything that moves.  I also think that his doggone wife should go to jail also for encouraging this knucklehead to continue to take part in these events with her knowing he was infected.  That’s like if I knew someone was going to commit a crime and not say anything and help them plan and plot I would go to jail as an accomplice.  That’s why I say her tail should be locked up with her dangone husband.  He wasn’t sobbing because he played with other people’s lives with a very serious disease, no.  He was crying because he did not want to lose his medical benefits.  Just plain selfish.  He should have thought about that before he went around exposing people.  He knew he was wrong.  He was directed to tell the people AND wear condoms.  He disobeyed both.  I digress.  If you’re going to have sex, and you’re not in a monogamous relationship, please protect yourself.  Assume everyone has something.  I’m just saying!

He Has Put His Foot Down!


For as long as I can remember I have been a night owl.  I remember as a little girl while everyone slept I was wide awake.  To occupy my time I would lie in bed and read or just stare out the window.  I have tried on numerous occassions to go to bed early but by 10pm I am wide awake.  I know that my sleeping habits are a problem.  Last night I briefly told my husband that I have to do better for my baby boy.  As long as I’m awake my papa bear is up with me.  Two nights this week we were up until 3 and 4am.  I know, I feel awful about this.  That’s why I was talking to my husband about it.  The whole point in telling Jeremiah my problem was to confess  and accept that, “I have a problem”.  My plan was to go to the doctor for help.  Noooo, my dear husband took it upon himself to fix my problem.

I usually go to bed with the laptop so if I have an idea all I need to do is reach under the bed and grab it.  Look I know that this is part of my problem. 🙂 Moving on.  So last night I go to bed, not to sleep but to watch TV.  I noticed that my husband had already sent the boys to bed at 9pm, even my baby boy.  My baby wasn’t asleep but as usual he was in bed watching TV, playing.  😀  My show came on at 10pm and Jeremiah watched it with me.  Afterward we watched part of my recording of Teen Mom 2.  At 11pm I pick up my laptop to tend to my city in CityVille.  As I got into my city, Jeremiah tells me to turn off the laptop and go to bed.  What!  Me!  Wait a minute who was he talking to.  Obviously not me.  Oh but he was talking to me.   I tried to put up a fight and he wasn’t having it.  My husband put his foot down.  Meany.  😦 I told him I was going to sleep when Teen Mom was over and he sternly replies, “go to bed“. I even tried the puppy dog face, he always falls for the puppy dog face.  NOTHING! Can you believe he rolled over.  Awful right? Needless to say I was in the bed by 11:30 pm.  I tossed and turned for a few minutes and was out.  I’m up now at 0630 feeling pretty good.  My husband is still a meany.  I guess there’s no need to go to the doctor because Dr. Evans has just what I need.  😀 To put his foot down and give me a bed time.