Far too often I hear women say, “he just doesn’t get a hint”. My response is, “did you tell him”? Ladies just as we are not mind readers our men aren’t either. You have to tell them what it is that you want from them. These games that are played far too often will just leave you feeling unfulfilled. If I hear, “well we’ve been together long enough he should know me”, again I’m going to SCREAM. That is not true.
As we age we change and so does our taste. Constant communication is key. Show and tell him now and then what it is that you would like from him. If you want him to surprise you more often, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to do the same for him. I’ve learned from plenty of men, and my sons, that if they try something with you once and you complain, act disappointed, or nit-pick over every detail they are probably not going to try it again. Realize that you are dealing with a real human being not your fantasy from a movie. I grew up with only one brother, I had no idea that guys are just as sensitive as we are. They don’t like to be rejected or feel like they can’t please you. I’m not into having someone pine over me all the time and my husband knows that. It would be silly of me to get upset with him for not showing me affection when I did not tell him I wanted it. Whenever I want affection I tell him or show him, that I want a hug or cuddle. Be happy that they are making an effort and want to please you. If they aren’t making any efforts you may want to think back to the last time they did and you rejected them. Now if you tell them or even show them what it is that you want and they still don’t deliver then you may need to sit and have a pow wow. Counseling may be in order. I’m talking about affection not material things. 😀 I’m just saying.
- Sexes: Male Fantasies (time.com)
- Could the ‘cuddle hormone’ make you love your mom? (seattletimes.nwsource.com)