Hello Ms. Tangled,
I was just thinking about what a shame it is that some people do not know how to be broken up! and I was wondering what your thoughts were on being friends with ex lovers??
Break ups are usually nasty to begin with. There are a lot of hurt emotions that must be dealt with, if they were not resolved prior to the break up. I believe that when a couple breaks up they should take some time to themselves to “regroup”. There are those instances where an ex just hangs around and doesn’t quit get the hint that they’re actually not still together. It screams desperate and a bit stalkerish. I have heard far too often when people break up they use the classic line, “Let’s just be friends” but really. If you were sexually involved with one another that may prove to be really difficult to uphold because that soul tie will always be there. Especially if one should move on you really do not want your ex, now friend, hanging around. Talk about awkward. I’m not saying that it isn’t possible to be friends with an ex. I think once you are over those feelings for them it is totally possible. Although I would advise that you both move on. You don’t want to cause any further complications.
If you have children with an ex I feel that you definitely should try to be friends if not kosher with one another for the sake of the child. You DO NOT want to constantly be fighting with one another about everything and every time the other calls. You don’t have to just deal with this person until your child turns 18 but when they go to college, get married and have children. The two of you are going to have to be in each others lives for, forever. Why not make it peaceful for the sake of your child. I feel that those that purposely create “drama” whether the father or mother still have an emotional attachment to the other that they are not ready to get over. The drama maker only makes it worse for themselves because as that child gets older you may be the parent that they choose to leave out of their happiness because you always bring the “drama”.
It’s surely is possible to be friends once you have dealt with those emotions and have moved on and know for certain that you don’t want to go back down that road with them. I’m just saying. 🙂